By Pinky

Making playtime fun doesn’t involve lots of structured activities or expensive equipment, but it does require respect from you for your childs ‘work.’ This means that rather than directing or taking over your childs play, it is better to be present and observe carefully, taking your cues from your child. If he is sitting quietly, sit quietly with him. If he is boisterous and active, join in his game and follow his rules, with gentle guidance only to assure safety. This will help him feel competent and valued and will encourage him to develop initiative and perserverance.

- Remember that that your child fantasy world is his own. You can nurture and encourage but be careful not to impose adult values.

- Switch off the television while your child is playing. Play means active involvement, not passive distraction.

- Alternate quiet and active play values

- If you aren’t in the mood, don’t initiate a game because you feel you should. Your toddler will sense your reluctance and you will probably both become frustrated.

- Don’t race around tidying everything behind your child. Try to have a play area

- Give your children a few minutes warning that it’s nearly time to stop playing, rather than insisting that they pack up now! Imagine how you would feel if you were busily working at a task and somebody ordered you to stop immediately!

- Remember, play is fun. It is the process (what your toddler enjoys) that counts, not the product (what he or she can do)

For more great tips to enhance your parenting life,  see Pinky McKay’s books available here at Bebe, or visit Pinky’s website for information about  Pinky and her workshops for parents.